Whenever you are in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitudeWilliam James

Dr. Seuss said Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind. I am going to disagree with that , that is what others say to make themselves feel good when they are mean ,I mind and what is the hurt is not the face the words it is the face that the person thinks that i do no mind. One can forget all the words but one can never forget how your words made them feel Often people never watch what they say,

  We hurt the ones we love not because we love them becasue we can get away with hurting them People who love with put up with your behavior and then one day it just ends for our lives begin the day we begin silent about  things that matter Any one can start today and make a new beginging but it takes a special kind of hurt to start a new ending Once you have decided to close the chapter that is the new realization

Fool me once shame on you
Fool me twice shame on me

I was watching the show Suits today and realized that Harvey is the best character on the show He is mean, selfish and uncaring. Now watching his one liners on TV i found him funny but then looking back at the show I realized how mean he must appear to the person who has a vested interest in the conversation.

There comes a time when one says hey i am not going on with the flow The other day I was telling DD that my son has never  bought me a present. She says that well you told him that you did not want anything or nor does he have money. That is not the point , the point is not the present. It is the fact that  he did not even take the time to even think. He could bought a coffee or anything , nothing because he does not care

People say to me well if someone does not care then stop caring about them , easy to say so easy to do and hard to implement .when you have invested your life in raising a 22 year old man it is not that easy to say Hey let me stop, sure i can but the fact is that it is not the stopping it is the fact that the person never cared or ever did.

You do not need to be a two parent family to raise a selfish child you can be like me and raise one all yourself . The only silver lining is that at least no woman will ever hurt him for he will be first to the goal line.

I live my life with the motto that  Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness, and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again.

I hear wives telling me that their husbands do not care or husbands telling me that their wives do not care. I do not need to know that my family does not care I know that they do not. Why does it always come down to money. When did money mean that you care. Money will buy a lot of things but only love will buy you a smile. it is good to have things that money can buy but often how many of check up on the things that money cannot buy. Making a big cheque is not being successful, a loving relationship is not a relationship that you can brag about but a when you have something that money cannot buy. For example i often say that i am poor and people always think why since i pull in a big paycheque , it is because that i have do not have anything that money cannot buy. I have everything money can buy but nothing that money cannot buy . I used to race through airports buying my son a souvenir and last time he said that he never asked for one so this time i did not . If someone does not care why do I have to chase getting him one, let us not forget that as recent as last year he was still asking me what did you get for me or the thousands of parents that i see at the airport buying gifts at the airport gift stores but like I said you have to give them what they want or

Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option

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1 Response to Whenever you are in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitudeWilliam James

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