“Being single isn’t bad. What is bad is giving up hope on fi nding that someone s pecial.” – Anonymous


There is so much emphais put on getting married. Look at me I am a single girl and at least once a day I am asked why i am not married. well maybe I did find someone who loved me as much as I loved them. so what is wrong in being single I asked myself the question yesterday and said nothing , what possibly do I need in my life right now. When i got married the first time the idea was to have a husband for financial securty, grow old with but alas it did not happen. I am not too broken about it for what possibly could I have achieved in being married that I could not achieve by myself.A house got that, bank balance got that so what did i end up lacking .Basically, I’ve dodged that marriage bullet…I like the jewelry part of getting married, but I can buy my own damn rings, too. – Queen Latifa
There are only four questions of value in life. What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made of? What is worth living for? What is worth dying for? The answer to each is the same. Only love.
Don Juan DeMarco (1995) “I must learn to love the fool in me, the one who feels too much, talks too much, takes too many chances, wins sometimes and loses often, lacks self-control, loves and hates, hurts and gets hurt, promises and breaks promises, laughs and cries. So why is there so much self pity going around on being single, why why why
I do not get invited to family functions because I am single , I do not have a social life because i am single , men hit on me all the time and wives hate because i do not wear the ring .
but I do not need to be loved, not at the cost of myself . The single relationship that is truly central and crucial in a life is the relationship to the self. Of all the people I u will know in a lifetime, I am the only one that I will never lose or as Carrie said Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you. Now it means you’re pretty sexy and you’re taking your time deciding how you want your life to be and who you want to spend it with.” If your marriage is great , that is awesome but if it is lousy then I rather be a first rate single version of myself than a second rate version of some one else.
I may not have a ring but I have hope , so maybe I will die without ever finding the ring but the hope is there I live in optimism , when i was in my teens and twenties I became what my parents wanted me to be, in my thirties I became what my son wanted me to and today i am what i want to be . I do not need a husband , I need someone who will understand what i am about , someone I can discuss the bachelorette and True Blood and someone who will understand my need to go and look for the perfect dress, I am at that stage of my life where it is less about financial ,but more on sharing I am secure , it is more about companionship but that does not mean that i settle for less, Why, when you settle for less that is what you get I rather be single and looking than be taken and miserable.
Maybe I am a woman who is not meant to be tamed but just run free till i find someone wild to run with me as per Carrie
So let age not define special people in our lives, I keep my optimism alive and as Oprah said

If you look at what you have in life,
You’ll always have more.
If you look at what you don’t have in life,
You’ll never have enough. –

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